Dating with chronic illness
The break-up and divorce rate among couples where one person has a chronic illness is higher than the national average. Many couples have managed to weather the difficulties that illness brings. I have been struggling with this situation for some time and I thought it might help if I gained some perspective.Dating should be fun and we should look forward to future possibilities.For the past few days I’ve been thinking about dating in the context of chronic illnesses such as MS.Aside from our other issues, I knew then that my illness put a lot of pressure on the relationship and it was very difficult for my partner to deal with it.This knowledge has become a roadblock during my various dating attempts since my last relationship.
I have heard many stories about relationships that don’t work because the other person did not want to “deal with” a chronic illness. But the challenges made me accept and love myself today. In addition, they are confronted with the pressures of daily living.
I also deal with moderate to severe pain on a daily basis, which can be difficult at times but I am much better at handling it than I used to be.
To say that this illness has changed my life would be an understatement.
My doctor also said that if a person couldn’t love and accept me and my heart disease, they did not deserve me. I remember wondering if someone could genuinely love me with my illness. It seemed as if I had the weight of the world on my shoulders.
Looking back, I realize that I employed defense mechanisms; there was an impenetrable wall.