If you're complaining about ten different people in one conversation, maybe the problem was you? "There is a "douchebag first date look" that always ends badly.It's when the guy wears a darkly-colored, striped, often slightly shiny button-down shirt with dark-wash jeans, square toed black shoes, and gelled hair.So, in the interest of informing ourselves, I asked a few of my girlfriends what the biggest red flags are – even in the first few dates – that let you know it's just not going to work out in the long term.1."I once got invited out to a nice dinner by a guy from work who had been flirting with me for a while.We actually really hit it off, and were having a great time, but when the check came he broke it down item by item and made me pay 4 dollars more because my cocktail was more expensive than his beer.It was so insane and detailed and completely took away from the sexiness of the evening.
Suggestive jokes can be funny and endearing once someone gets to know your personality a little, even on a first date..before you've even had an email exchange, it just comes off as a little desperate and creepy. There are tons of regular, nice-enough people out there—but that's not enough to get you a date.I'm not talking about forcing themselves on you, I'm talking about just like "trying to guilt you into putting out or attempting three times in a row despite getting shot down to take you home for the night." Even if they eventually give up, it's just not a good sign when someone is trying so hard to push your boundaries sexually." - Ana11."Too much cologne, too much perfume, or smells slightly funky.And I'm sorry, it's not about gender, but if you invite someone out, you should at least offer to pay." - Andrea2."I think there are a few things that really let you know the guy is not relationship material. "When I was dating this guy back in college (aka when I had really low self-esteem and didn't know about feminism yet), he told me on the second date that he really "liked his girl to stay in shape and keep it neat down there" and insecure 19-year-old me was like "omg I expect the same from myself." Like how much more pathetic could I have been, by the way?