Sexuality in marriage dating and other relationships a decade review
Going from fight to fight is a surefire sign that something has gone horribly wrong at the core of your relationship and neither of you are managing to address it.Maybe you’re unwilling to admit that you were wrong.As long as you have two separate people, you’re going to have conflict.Hell, for some couples, the “explode at one another, then passionate make-up sex” is part of their dynamic and they’re just fine with it.But there are the occasional flare-ups that are part of every relationship and then there are the relationships where those moments of quiet aren’t tranquility, it’s the calm before the storm.When your relationship has become a never-ending string of arguments, grievances and all-out , then you’re looking at a relationship that’s gone past it’s expiration date.
“U mad bro” doesn’t work online and it has no place in relationships.
We have a tendency to mistake “talking” for communicating and strive to cover those moments of silence with verbal flack as though it were a way of chasing relationship difficulties away.
In practice though, it doesn’t matter if you can coexist in companionable silence or if you chatter away like a pair of extroverted cockatoos as long as you can express your needs clearly to one another.
It doesn’t matter if making your needs clear will result in a fight; avoiding or ending a conflict doesn’t actually make a relationship stronger if nothing is resolved and frankly, some fights to happen. If you don’t have the emotional space and security to make yourself heard and be understood, then it’s time to move on.
On a related note: No couple, no matter how perfectly in synch or in love they may be, can avoid fighting.